Life Paths

Being young and out in the wide world can be scary. As a 20 something year old, we experience a lot of different changes in life as we try to figure out what it all means. We are trying to figure out what we want our career to be, who we really are, establishing relationships and making personal and professional connections.

One obstical I have found as a 20 something year old is making friends. It was so easy to make friends in college, there were people trying to get to the same goal and at the same part of their lives living right next to us or with us. We were all on a journey into adulthood and the roads a bit complicated to steer around.

One of those road is meeting people and making friends. It's not as easy as we were in college, where we were all on the same path in life and were living down the hall or with each other. College kind of forced us to make friends because with out that, we could go crazy just doing school work. But then we all graduated and were set out into the big wide world of adulthood. We don't know our next door neighbors(I never have even said hi to them), we are working 9-5 jobs just trying to pay rent and the town is made up of college students and families. We don't blend in with the college students because they are all about drinking and partying, still trying to figure out what they will do after college or the next day.

It kind of puts you in an awkward position when you do try to meet people. If you meet someone who you think is cool and you get along with, do you say "hey, want to be my friend?" Kind of odd....Or do you say "hey, want to meet up for coffee or something?" For some reason, I think it was easier asking a guy out than asking someone to hang out with you. All of these thoughts go through your head while you make the decision to ask someone to "get together". Do they not want to make any new friends? Do they already have a group of friends they hang with? Are you making a good impression, or are you scaring them away? Do you sound like an idiot asking? And so many more....

Then, once someone says "lets meet up." You start to wonder what it will be like. How do you start a conversation that you don't know well? Will this person seem cool? What if its just awkward and strange, do you end that "friendship" or do you continue? Will this person want to hang out all of the time when you just want someone to hang out with when you aren't insanely busy with work and relationship life? Or will this person decide not to hang out with you again? I guess the best thing you can do is try it and if it doesn't work, then there wasn't much to lose. Right?

And you are out on that path again, trying to meet people. Why can't that part of adulthood be easier? Finding friends was a lot easier when we were little, if someone liked the same colors you did, then they were your friend.

Life is just one big path to go on and sometimes it takes you where you want to go and sometimes it takes you on unpredicted places.